As is the case with some of us, Will Sheridan, Jr. never really viewed himself as being "in" the proverbial closet. Rather, he was content with being himself, the man that he is, and revealed his sexuality in his own time and at his own choosing. After all, it really is no one's business besides our own, right? How many heterosexuals announce their orientation (unless they are rumored or suspected of being gay)? This is, ultimately, an individual decision that each one of us have to make for ourselves.
Each of us must "find and locate" our own special place in this world. The life of our brother, Will, is no different. It is unique and extraordinary in that not only does it parallel ours as much as that it also opens doors and guides the lives of those who follow after us. He offers himself and his experiences as a roadmap for future same gender loving men. He is pictured above from his music video,
Welcome To The Jungle.
Coming Out:
By the time he was a college freshman, Sheridan was already comfortable with himself and his sexuality that he began sharing with friends on a "need-to-know" basis. One of the first to learn about Will was his roommate and teammate, Mike Nardi. He recalls: "I just said, 'I need to tell you something...I'm gay.'"
Nardi responded by making a joke: "I just said, "Don't go putting a hit on me or sniffing my underwear or nothing.'" Mike then adds: "I had never really experienced anything like that, but it's not like it mattered. I don't know. I mean, we're friends. Who cares?" They both continued to live as roommates for three of their four seasons together playing for the Wildcats. They remain close friends even today and are shown in the photo on the right.
Over the years, Sheridan came out to most of his teammates on an individual level. The team accepted him for who he was and the fact that he's gay wasn't an issue. There was never, "a team meeting to discuss Will being gay," Mike offers. "Your personal life is your personal life." No one bothered to tell Coach Wright about Sheridan. He didn't learn about Will until after he had graduated. "After I found out, I was like, 'Did you know?' And all the guys, they were like, 'Yeah, Coach, we knew," Wright states.
Although Sheridan wasn't publicly out during college, he didn't disguise nor deny his sexuality, either. He even dated a man from a different university in the Philly area. On campus, he remained popular and was rarely ridiculed by his fellow students.
In contrast to the generally supportive atmosphere on the Villanova campus, during basketball games, the courtside climate at times was rough and negative. Rumors and gossip existed; there were slurs and disrespectful comments and gestures from both the opposing teams and their fans. Sheridan accepted all this in his own stride and refused to let it get the best of him.
Will, Jr. came out to his parents at the end of his freshman year of college. This news wasn't initially welcome to Will Sheridan, Sr. and Josie Sheridan. It created a tense environment between them and their son that took time and effort for all three to work through. Although proud if their son and his accomplishments, who he was proved difficult for the older Sheridans to accept.
The younger Sheridan sums up the reaction of his parents: "To them, this was just no way. Denial. It didn't fit with who I was, or who they thought I was. I was perfect. This didn't work." Josie Sheridan adds: "Devastated. I was devastated. I mean, I was disappointed. Not in him, but in the things that were taken away, not having a daughter-in-law, grandchildren, things like that."
Mother and son soon were able to overcome the pain, heal and move on with their lives. Mrs. Sheridan again remarks: "I never loved him any less. In fact, I think I love him more. I've always been proud of him, but he has such courage. This takes courage."
Will Sheridan, Sr. wasn't quite as resilient as his wife. In fact, it was almost a full year before the older Will and the younger one ever spoke to each other. He took away his car and ceased auto insurance payments. His father now admits: "I just did these things to make him realize, "I'm not playing, son. You let this thing go. You stop. I honestly almost lost it.'"
Father and son eventually resumed speaking to one another; however, it took longer than a year before they were completely reconciled. In fact, the older Sheridan decided not to attend Will, Jr's. senior year team banquet and university graduation. Eventually, both Sr. and Jr. resumed their closeness and are now past the heartache and pain. "We are closer now than we've ever been," Will, Jr. says. "We talk all the time, but I know it's hard. I know it's still really hard for him."
As already noted, Will Sheridan, Jr. publicly announced that his is same gender loving in an ESPN.com interview with Dana O'Neil on May 16, 2011, at the age of 26 years. Following this article, he also appeared on ESPN's
Outside The Lines and he gave an interview on Outsports.com.
Current Activities:
Life after graduating from Villanova University and participating in the Italian Basketball League has been interesting and unique for our queer brother Will. Not only has he gained experience from living in Europe, he's volunteered in a development initiative in East Africa as well. He spent time in Nairobi, Kenya (at his own expense) in restoring the kitchen at the Ruiru Rehabilitation Center. It was while there that he was inspired to create the lyrics for his first EP, released through Royal Advisor Records (RAR) entitled
Ngoma. The title translates from Swahili into the English "music." The tracklist includes original works: Fundamentals, You Know I Got It, Welcome To The Jungle (Morsy's Original Mix) and Welcome To The Jungle (Morsy's Go-Bop Mix). To visit his musical blog, click on this entry title above or go to: http://www.willsheridanmusic.blogspot.com.
While he awaits proverbial fame and fortune in his music, Sheridan supports himself by working as businessman and manager in the fashion industry in New York City. Always a realist, Sheridan acknowledges that he may not become famous through his spoken word lyrics, "although I wouldn't mind it," he quips. As of this summer, he is in negotiations with MTVs VH1 Channel for a reality TV show about gay and/or bisexual basketball players.
What Now?
As for myself, I believe that Will Sheridan, Jr., is in a pivotal position within our same gender loving (SGL) culture. Obviously, he is creative, innovative and talented; these traits will serve him well in whatever path he chooses to travel. This young man has more than earned my admiration, respect and support solely based on what he has achieved thus far. In my humble opinion, he's already a contemporary hero, in every conceivable sense of the word.
He's the personification of the
new meaning for the GOP: that's
Gay, Out and Proud, the total opposite of the
old meaning of the politics of bigotry, exclusion, hatred and violence. Please note that this is my own interpretation and
not representative of Will Sheridan, Jr. The image to the left here is of our subject as he appeared earlier this Spring, 2011, during a televised interview when going public concerning his true life.
Mr. Sheridan, Jr., now has a special opportunity to reach millions of vulnerable youth. Given his multitude of abilities, he is able to relate and bond with most of our GLBT teens who may be experiencing conflicting periods in their personal lives. He is in the position to bridge and mentor them as they explore and assimilate into our community.
This potential is especially essential in this national crisis of suicides among our teenagers and young adults. Our youth desperately need a positive role model relative to their age and lifestyles. Our brother, Will, Jr., posesses the credentials to save lives and deliver hope. He can make a major difference in the lives of others.
To Will Sheridan, Jr., I offer my congratulations on the confidence and the fortitude to be yourself. I wish for you all the best that life offers you. I appreciate all that you've contributed to our community!
Peace! Get naked. Enjoy!
Sources: ESPN.com, Outsports.com, Wikipedia, willsheridanmusic.blogspot.com